Why would a spouse cheat if the marriage is good?

Grass looks green elsewhere - begins the cheating - And to get what - ? SEX.

My own imperfections is not the reason - you see …. !

For exciting and intensely satisfying sex that is deprived or denied or not understood of each other's needs - quick judgments " My husband watches porn " If it's not porn - it's his drinking - he spends more time with his friends- he doesn't share the work around the house - he doesn't talk - doesn't respect my family - not working enough - Headaches - Fibromyalgia- TMJ - size - ED and the list grows from a page to a size of 2 PDR's.

How old is planet Earth? Is it 4.5 billion years old or 6,000 years old?

Nothing perfect - It's not acceptable if it's not perfect - but only the other one !

Point being - Marriage seems to be good to others - it's not - it has no passion in it - and two people come to live together as room mates and share their expense - to keep their secret from others the lips get sealed - of having separate beds and separate accounts

so begins the first step heading towards separation and divorce which becomes the battle ground- my TV - my sofa - my bed - my - my - my ……..

I caught my husband of 20 years looking at inappropriate pics of women on TikTok or Instagram. I'm not sure., but when I told him he got mad and made excuses of why they popped up. I then told him how I've snuck on his phone and saw what he's been looking at . We had a horrible big fight. I asked him why did he even marry me when I see the type he likes . Nothing like me, I'm petite, blonde and blue eyes. These women are dark haired dark eyed and have curvy bodies, large breasts, etc. I just don't feel the same about him after this. I can't get over this

Millions of excuses - Reasons - constant fighting - arguments- And always something wrong with the other- no self reflection -